Ask Rosie

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Dear Rosie:
Most of the girls at the office are married. We go out to lunch about once a week, and, the conversation always comes around to our husbands, and sex. The women talk about the demands put on them, and laugh about how much, how often, and how they manage. My problem is different. My husband has little or no sexual urge at all. The only time we have sex is when I initiate it, and that’s only once a month or so. We haven’t been married that long and I wonder what’s wrong with me.
Left Wanting

Dear Left:
Don’t immediately blame yourself. Have you talked to your husband about your fears? Your problem may be as simple as him not wanting to intrude on your space or it may be deep seated, from childhood. Please talk to your husband, lovingly, and ask him if the problem has anything to do with you. Suggest counseling for one or both of you before it’s too late. When problems creep their way into the bedroom, it’s only a matter of time before they spell trouble to the marriage. As for your friends, it appears that they are trying to deal with their own situations, and, laughter may be their way of coping or even seeking out advice from their friends.

Dear Rosie:
I am a widower with two children. Several months ago I came home to find my wife dead in our bed from an overdose of pills. I cannot get that sight out of my mind and cannot understand why a pretty young woman would do something like that. I cannot tell my children that their mother chose to leave them and am angry and hurt that she would destroy me this way. I keep asking myself what I did to deserve this. I can’t work or sleep. The anger and the guilt are killing me, not to mention the thought of never seeing her again.
Angry and Alone

Dear Alone:
I cannot tell you why your wife took her own life. I can say that suicide is the work of someone who is mentally imbalanced and whose problems go far beyond their relationships with others. Our will to survive is innate and it is unnatural to destroy ourselves. Do not blame yourself for the way your wife chose to deal with her pain and suffering. I strongly suggest that you join a support group for suicide survivors. You may want to call “Left Behind After Suicide Support Group” at 407-682-0808 voicemail 430. As for your children, wait until they ask, but don’t keep it from them. When you tell them, make sure that professional counselors are available to assist them in coping. They may also need some medical assistance, especially if your wife’s problem was chemical in nature.